It Happens

Today my Marine and I got into an argument. As I felt like the whole world was crashing down on me I realized one argument will not make or break your relationship, especially when the argument is done over a Facebook message. The argument we had is a reoccurring argument, but today I finally realized arguing over the internet will NOT solve anything. The time you have to talk to one another over a deployment should be seen as precious; therefore, your time should not be spent arguing. Sometimes you have to put whatever is going on in the back of your mind and forget about it until the time is right. Yes it will pop up in your head, and you will think about all the things you want to say to him, but biting your tongue can be beneficial as well. Don't let an argument consume you because you are stronger and wiser than the silly comments being thrown back and forth.
On a deployment your military man needs to focus on what is important: his safety, his emotional health, his physical health and his mission.  On deployment there will be times that he needs to put you out of his mind because you distract him, positively of course. The last thing a man or woman needs while they are deployed is negative distraction from home, and that is where we CAN actually help them. It is our job here on the homefront to be strong for our men. There are going to be weak moments, it is inevitable, but those are not times to complain to your man. They already know we love and miss them, they do not need our tears. Tears only hurt them and make them think deployment is ruining us and making us weak. So, when you are sad you have your friends, family and me to help! Don't let the stress of deployment come between you and your man. Any issues you have, definitely mention them, but discuss them when he is home. Write it down so you do not forget. And don't do what I did. Do not jump to conclusions and make assumptions, especially if you are stubborn like me. You will only push the situation and make it worse than what it needs to be. Today I learned from my mistake, my Marine and I are fine, but I feel badly that I distracted him and took him away, mentally, from what is important right now. All I want is for him to be safe and come home to me!

You Are Appreciated

Today I woke up to the most amazing email from my Marine. He told me he got his birthday and Christmas packages! The best part of that email was hearing about how much he appreciated the packages, how much I do for him, and me as his "princess." That is what led me to write this post today.

Appreciation is something we all deserve but do not feel like we get quite as often as we would like it. We are the girls waiting for our men, so we deserve some appreciation right? Well after receiving the email I did this morning, I realized my Marine has appreciated and loved me through it all. The unspoken appreciation that we think they feel is the appreciation they really do feel. If your man does not tell you how much he appreciates what you do for him, know he really does. Everything you do for him does not go unnoticed. He is thankful to have you in his life, and he is thankful to have someone at home that loves him as much as you do and supports him the way you do! Don't let the lack of communication let you doubt or second guess the love and appreciation you and your military man share! You have something so special, and you will be rewarded for you hard work!

Keep your head up this holiday season and know your baby loves and APPRECIATES you more than anything in the world. What would he do without you? He has no idea!

A Perfect Relationship

When I was younger I dreamed of finding my prince charming and living happily ever after. I thank Disney for that. I thought a perfect relationship was one where there were no fights, no disagreements, no days when you cry yourself to sleep, and no days you went without seeing or at least hearing from your love. After going through life and seeing relationships fail, relationships work, and relationships struggle I have learned that a perfect relationship is one where you disagree to better understand one another, you fight when something pisses you off, and you go days, weeks, or months without hearing from your love, often not by choice. But the most important thing I have learned is through all of that you always love each other, every morning when you wake up and every night before you go to sleep. You think about your other half almost ever second of every day, and things everywhere remind you of them. A perfect relationship is one where you accept and love one another for who each other is and who you each will become. Many times people think a fight is bad and is only going to lead to more fighting and more disagreeing. In some cases those people may be right; however, one fight leads to more because you are finally comfortable to talk about what bothers you and you care enough to mention it to your other half. Disney messed up the idea of a perfect relationship. It is not finding someone enchanting, falling in love at first sight, always smiling and laughing and never arguing. Simply, a perfect relationship is when two people fight for one another and the love they share through every aspect of life. It is falling in love over and over again with the same person every time. It is being happy even when you are completely pissed off. Finally, it is knowing you can't and don't want to be without the one you share your life with. That is what makes a relationship perfect.
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You're Never Alone

There are nights when all you will be able to do is stay up thinking about him, wondering what he is doing, if he is thinking about you and if he is happy where he is.  There are nights that all you can do is hold the stuffed animal he gave you months ago and cry.  There are nights where you lose hours of sleep even though you know you have such a long "to do" list for tomorrow.  There are nights that all you can do is miss and love your man.  

These nights are common for every military s/o.  Whether your man is on duty, in training, in a weekend conference, on deployment, or wherever he is other than in the bed next to you, know you are never alone.  There is not a military s/o out there that will say they never had one of these nights before.  There is someone out there right now with your same feelings.  I can promise you he thinks about you every night before he goes to sleep.  He loves you every second of every day.  He carries you in his heart every wherever he goes.  He is a man, so his emotions do not show as much as ours do, but that does not mean he cares any less or loves any less than you do.  

While you are lying in bed feeling alone, don't let your mind and heart doubt.  Crying is okay, wondering is okay, worrying is okay, but don't ever doubt.  Your man loves you and supports you here at home, while you love and support him wherever his duty has taken him!  

Our lives can be rocky and harder than we ever could have imagined at times, but the love between a man in the military and his girl at home is a love that cannot be put into words.

So as you lye in bed tonight and feel helpless and alone, let yourself cry.  Let yourself be angry. Let yourself miss him. And let yourself smile at how lucky you are to have someone so amazing, handsome and perfect to miss.  He is with you through all these emotions. You are never alone! 

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